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PostSubject: gay or just there.   Mon Oct 26, 2009 5:24 pm

Okay this ir really embarresing so im just going to get it out there and see what people think.
A few weeks ago after having a good few drinks with a close friend and we ended up messing around and it got physical. Its happened a couple of times since. He is a traveller has a gf and saying his not gay. What does everyone think? And yes I know i really shouldnt be messing around with a guy who has someone in his life. Im lonely though.
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PostSubject: Re: gay or just there.   Tue Oct 27, 2009 5:41 am

Maybe he's in the same possition as you. I could be possible he's gay too but is with this girl so it's not assumed he's gay. Either way it ain't your fault, there was two of you involved.
Being lonely ain't good, there's always someone out there for you just be patient
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PostSubject: Re: gay or just there.   Tue Oct 27, 2009 3:05 pm

see how it goes? Keep in contact with him and take one day at a time if u can? i had lots of girlfriends b4 i admitted i was gay, havin a gf dont mean much sometimes
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PostSubject: Re: gay or just there.   Tue Oct 27, 2009 4:17 pm

I have to echo paveeprinces sentiments about not being too blame. Things happen and we can all find ourselves in unusual circumstances due to a vast array or reasons and while not too blame you are however responsible for yourself. Being involved with someone who's involved with someone else may not be honouring who you are or helping you in your journey to where you want to be.

Although friends it sounds like you've both entered into a dangerous liaison that could very well lead to heartbreak. Like London said he could very well be in the same situation as you and currently in the process of navigating his way through conflicts with his personal identity and sexual orientation.

However unlike yourself he is not single which is a genuine cause for concern. Not only from a possible cross couple STI situation but one that involves a third person person, their emotions and your own guilt about feeling that like you shouldn't be messing around with him.

I know your lonely and being in this situation may seem on the surface to be helping but in a way it's also corroding your sense of self and leading to isolation rather then personal liberation. If your going to continue along this path (and you always have the choice too) you may need to sit yourself down and have a good look at what that means.

We are always here for you, as I doubt that anyone on this site hasn't felt the sting of loneliness or the allure of a no strings romance, so feel free to stay around a bit longer, get to know the people here, mix, mingle, socialise... it may be difficult being in your situation but together there few things we cant do Smile

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PostSubject: Re: gay or just there.   Wed Oct 28, 2009 6:52 am

thanks. i really do need to sort myself out as this isnt good for me and i just know its goin to turn out terrible. thanks for the help guys i appreciate it and ya i deserv more!
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PostSubject: Re: gay or just there.   Wed Oct 28, 2009 3:03 pm

Way To Go!! Woteva u choose i reckoin there r ppl here that will support u in woteva u choose. So keep posting huh? wish u all the best
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PostSubject: Re: gay or just there.   Wed Oct 28, 2009 6:30 pm

As london said were all here but dude dont be played his got a gf so his a bit selfish to havin ye both on play. kick him and his sexual services to the curb and find yourself a man that wants you for you. your lonely and weve all being there but no need to cheapen yourself with a man whos got issues and not enough truth to choose (sorry but its how i feel).

You sound lovely so I doubt youd have any probs finding someone nice. if you give yoruself the chance!
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PostSubject: Re: gay or just there.   Wed Nov 04, 2009 2:34 pm

does it mater if his gay? straight or not his not free. so if his a beur and doing a bit of a roll in the hay with you its not on. treat yourself better and hav resect for all involved. i know its hard and i no your loenly but thers better things to do then play with the hearts of others. even if our lonliness is soemtimes horrible lets not get lost with it.

Hope your feelin bettr
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